David K. Mercier
Dear Queer Christian: What Grace Makes Possible
(Titus)
Dear Queer Christian,
You’ve been told you can’t lead.
That your heart is weakness.
That your story is too much, your joy too loud, your questions too complicated.
But here’s the truth:
Your life is the kind of sermon that frees people.
And leadership that liberates has never come from power plays or posturing.
It comes from presence. From consistency. From grace-soaked grit.
You know how to hold space because you’ve had to make room for yourself.
You know how to tell the truth because you’ve been gaslit by Evangelicals that tried to erase you.
You know how to stay when it’s hard, show up when it’s awkward, and ask better questions when the old answers stop working.
That’s leadership, babe.
You don’t need to wear a robe, get a title, or quote Greek verbs.
You just need to be grounded in grace.
Rooted in love.
And willing to keep showing up—not to impress, but to bless.
You’ve seen the kind of religion that controls.
Now become the kind of faith leader that heals.
Grace is making that possible.
And trust me—someone’s watching you and whispering, “If they can live like that… maybe I can too.”
—Someone who believes grace should make us more human, not less, Paul
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Titus isn’t just a letter—it’s a blueprint for queer leadership in real life.
It says: yes, hold people accountable. Yes, teach what’s true.
But don’t forget where you came from—and don’t lose the tenderness that grace planted in you along the way.
Queer people of faith have spent years being disqualified by church systems that prize performance over presence.
Titus says stop and reminds us of grace.
It invites us to imagine leadership that flows from humility, integrity, and embodiment.
It reminds us that you don’t have to tone down your queerness to be taken seriously.
In fact, your story—the one with the scars, the laughter, the quiet resilience—that’s exactly what makes you ready.
And the wildest part?
It’s grace that makes it all possible.
Not hustle. Not shame. Not fear.
Grace. Real grace. The kind that re-parents you, reroutes you, and reminds you that God doesn’t call you to be useful—just to be faithful.
Reflection
When have you felt pressure to lead like someone else’s idea of “holy”?
What would leadership look like for you if it flowed from grace, not guilt?
How might your queerness be part of what makes you a better guide for others?
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